The Worksheet Series: Why We Audit
This worksheet is the first in our Signal East Workshop Series. It is designed to be the practical “Deep Dive” into the Relatability Model.
By defining the specific “characters” that jam your signal, you give yourself the language needed to identify exactly why you feel drained.
In the same way you audit a bank statement to find “ghost subscriptions” draining your account, we must audit our circles to find the “energy leaks” stalling our progress.
Part 1: Identifying the “Signal Jammers”
Before you can map your zones, you must identify the characters currently occupying space in your circle. Does any of this sound familiar?
- The Monitoring Spirit: They don’t celebrate your wins; they “track” them. They stay close to watch your progress, but only to compare it to their own or to find your weak spots.
- The Scavenger: They only appear when you are “down” or in a crisis. They feed off the drama of your life because it makes them feel superior or needed.
- The Gladiator: They are always ready for a fight. They treat every conversation as a debate and drain your dopamine by forcing you into a constant state of defence.
- The Bloody Samaritan: They help you, but they make sure you “pay” for it emotionally. Their help comes with strings attached and is used as a weapon of guilt later.
- The Frenemy: A “Space Zone” character wearing a “Guest Zone” mask. They offer “backhanded” compliments and subtle jabs disguised as jokes.
- The Projectionist: Whenever you share a dream, they play a movie of their own fears onto your screen. They tell you why your goal won’t work because they were too afraid to try it themselves.
The Power of the “Signal Friend”
While jammers create static, the Signal Friend acts as a signal booster.
- The Signal Friend: This is someone who keeps you aligned with your true vision. When you spend time with them, you feel closer to your authentic self. They don’t just “support” you; they remind you of who you are when the world makes you forget.
- The Virtual Signal: A Signal Friend doesn’t always have to be someone you know personally. They can be a mentor you listen to online—like Steven Bartlett from Diary of a CEO—whose voice helps you recalibrate your frequency when your physical environment gets too loud.
Part 2: The Zone Mapping Exercise
Instructions: On a blank piece of paper, draw four concentric circles (like a bullseye). Use the guide below to place initials in each zone.
Zone 1: The Inner Core (YOU)
- Audit Question: Am I spending at least 30 minutes a week on my growth, or am I purely reacting to others?
- The 1% Shift: Write down one boundary you will enforce this week (e.g., “I will not answer work calls after 7 PM”).
Zone 2: The Anchor Zone (The Chosen Family & Signal Friends)
- Audit Question: Who has proven they can hold me steady during a “high tide”? Who makes me feel more like myself?
- The 1% Shift: Identify one “Virtual Signal” (a podcast or author) to listen to for 15 minutes when you feel your frequency slipping.
Zone 3: The Guest Zone (The Acquaintances)
- Audit Question: Am I “trauma dumping” or over-sharing with people who haven’t earned my trust?
- The 1% Shift: Practice the “Neutral Pivot”: When a Guest pries, say, “That’s an interesting question, but I’d rather hear about your latest project.”
Zone 4: The Space Zone (The Perimeter)
- Audit Question: Who drains me every time I see their name on my phone?
- The 1% Shift: Move their notification to “Silent.” Stop letting their chaos become your crisis.
Part 3: The Energy Leak Check
Look at your map.
- Is your Anchor Zone empty? If so, your goal is to find “Virtual Signals” first to build your strength.
- Is your Guest Zone overcrowded with Jammers? It’s time to move them to the Space Zone.
- Are you neglecting your Inner Core? If you are, you will always be at the mercy of the other three zones.
Conclusion: Reclaiming the Remote
We are often told that “loyalty” means staying in a room even when the air is toxic. But at Signal East, we believe true loyalty begins with your own mission. You are the captain of this vessel, and you cannot reach your destination if your crew is actively drilling holes in the hull.
Mapping your circle isn’t about being “mean.” It is about stewardship. It is about ensuring that your limited energy is spent on the Signal Friends and Anchors who amplify your life.
Go ahead and structure your interactions accordingly. Once your expectations are managed, you free up the mental bandwidth to finally go after the goals that have been sitting on the shelf for too long.
